Friday, October 7, 2011

Good Will Hunting Again?

So yeah, maybe I have a bit of an obsession with Good Will Hunting, but obsessions are good for the soul. The movie is damn good and digs deep into human frailty, self delusion and walls of defense. In other words it deals with all of us, in all of our self created worlds of illusion.
The scene where Robin Williams gets up close to Matt Damon, right up in his personal space, and repeats: "It's not your fault." Over and over again. He's referring to the abuses Damon suffered as a child. "It's not your fault." Over and over and over. Damon goes from shrugging it off, to showing some emotion, to questioning Williams' sincerity, to getting somewhat violent, to eventually breaking down and sobbing uncontrollably. It is a release, a breakthrough, a catharsis.
We all need this. We need to be pushed to this point and then broken down completely, forced to face the truth and then pushed beyond it. Recognizing your own reality and living in complete harmony with who you genuinely are, understanding the true source of whatever pain you carry around and getting beyond that, these things can be insurmountable. And they can completely distort your life and suck spontaneity from your soul, draw a curtain over your mind and send you through life living a lie.
Somehow you have to work yourself to that breaking point and then be around someone who can push you over the edge into peace. Unfortunately, for the most part, we are on our own. You can't afford a shrink, you don't have the time, and Robin Williams isn't going to walk into your life and wrap his arms around you.
Life is weird because we all walk around acting out parts and there is no truth, no honesty. When you walk out of your house it's like walking onto the set of a movie because there is no reality. There is only what other people choose to show you, which is just an act. That's why true friendship and genuine family love are so valuable.
"They say that what you mock will surely overtake you, and you become a monster so the monster will not break you." Peace On Earth - U2. This is what life does. You take whatever damage your parents did and combine that with the need to survive in a harsh world and you become a monster. It is not always deep and dark and soul crushing, but I do believe that most people have hangups that crept into their lives somewhere along the line, that keep them off balance, that prevent them from achieving the sweet peace that comes from fearlessly exposing your soul to the world.
"Children, insane people, fools and mystics are more interested in what is than in why it is." Another quote I picked up somewhere. This is what our essence aspires to. Simplicity. Innocence. Life experiences, pain, and self delusion all complicate things. Layers are added on as you move on down the road until you wear them like a soggy, wool blanket.
I have become overly dramatic, as is my way. My point is that almost everyone you meet is acting to some extent, including yourself. So what is this world that we live in? We really don't know.
And what would it be like if everyone was true to their soul, free of pain and hangups? We might not be able to handle it.

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