Making Adjustments

Life is about making adjustments.
Which is another way of saying that life is about change. That's what makes life so hard because we humans don't like change. We try to make things predictable and comfortable, to establish routines. Because it gives you a sense of control. It makes things easier.
But life is a pain in the ass because it is a constantly changing thing. It is relentless, like the honey badger.
You dig your kids and you want them to stay young and laughing forever but they grow up. They were this huge part of your life that everything revolved around and then they are gone.
You have to adjust.
That is a large example that occurs over decades but I think life changes almost daily. We don't notice it in part because of our routines and in part because we choose not to.
Nothing is permanent.
You got a job that you love, it won't last forever. Or if it does, if you are that lucky, there are still things about it that will change.
You got a job that you hate, it won't last forever. Even though every single day feels like forever.
As you get older your body begins to betray you. You have to adapt. There are things you can no longer do, things you can't do as well and things you shouldn't do but, out of stubbornness, you still attempt.
Your mind accumulates vast amounts of information and experience which gives you more weapons to work with. It also develops the maddening habit of forgetting things instantaneously. A fascinating back and forth competition, the outcome of which defines the quality of your life.
If you are flexible enough, your personality changes, but this is a tough one. We get locked in to an approach and hold on tight even if it isn't working. Gets us into a lot of trouble.
But even if you decide you need to change who you are, it is a serous challenge. Because of your mind, because of other people's resistance.
You are affected by the people you deal with every day. This is a tough one because you are dealing with fragile humanity. People come and go, they have different personalities, you adjust, they change or they leave and you adjust to the new guy.
Even the people you deal with every day change day to day depending on mood, level of self abuse the night before, perceived or real injustices, failed plans and revised plans, agendas.
Technology is the perfect example. Especially now when change occurs at exponential rates. You do the best you can to figure it all out but is uncomfortable because you are slapped in the face with 4G LTE before your mind has had a chance to understand 1,2 and 3.
The economy changes, the housing market changes, the political environment changes, the climate changes, your health (both mental and physical) changes.
I think this is just one more source of stress for us wee humans.
It's a big one.
Change is good, though. It relieves boredom , it exercises the mind, if used correctly it can improve your life.
We really should embrace change but it is a slippery devil. I never believe people who say they love chaos, they love anarchy. I think for the most part they are just trying to impress you with their wildness.
The way you handle change directly impacts your life. If you fight it, you lose. If you figure out how to adapt to it, you at least have the potential to win.
The past six years of my life have been all about change and I have fought it like hell even though I initiated it. I haven't really fought the change but I have fought the results and I have fought my own reactions to the results.
Doesn't make sense but it is deeply human.